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Build a better bond with your child

Building a positive relationship with your child is its own reward. But nurturing that connection can sometimes be a challenge.

Scroll on for a few ideas on how to build a better bond with your child—and support their emotional development.

Make time for family fun

Sure, life is busy, but it's important to fit in fun activities with your kids. Go on a bike ride, play a board game or watch a movie together. Sharing laughter and joy draws you closer together while showing your child that you value spending time with them.

Check in with your child every day

Feeling heard and supported is an important part of a warm relationship. Try asking your child about their day-and then listen thoughtfully.

Asking questions—like how do you feel about that?—may encourage your child to open up to you. If sometimes you feel that way too, validate your child's feelings by sharing that with them.

Maintain your child's trust

Build your relationship on trust, which includes keeping your word. Nobody's perfect. But if you make a mistake, be honest and apologize to your child, if needed. When you acknowledge your mistakes, it teaches your child about humility and integrity.

Resolve conflicts in a positive way

Kids and parents can't always get along. Telling your child how you feel teaches them to express their true feelings instead of hurling hurtful words or putting the other person down.

When your child gets under your skin, take a breath and then calmly explain exactly why you're frustrated. Use clear phrases, like: I wish you would stop leaving your dirty clothes on the floor.

Show your love often

Showing your love might mean different things to different people. It might mean saying "I love you" when you see your child off to school or to bed. It might also mean warm gestures, such as hugs, smiles, pats on the back or cooking your child's favorite meal. All of these things can help strengthen your emotional relationship with your child.

Tackle the tough moments

Kids can be frustrating. This advice can help you handle challenging behaviors.

Healthy ways to handle frustration.